PORTER POTTY

I have read; and listened; and yes I have even debated and dialogued about one of the the most talked about playoff games in Bengal history. And arguably in recent NFL history but probably less about the game itself and more about everything surrounding the game. I've always thought to keep my blogs readable to the average person that may border on ADD like me but I have to admit this one may be a tad bit longer as I aim to teach the City of Cincinnati how to beat the Pittsburgh Steelers,  apologies notwithstanding to my Kappa Alpha Psi Frat Brother Mike Tomlin'.

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Keep my name out yo' mouth! He has been vilified yet he's not the villain. People were clamoring for his ouster saying the league should consider his behavior exigent. He has caused Cincinnatians to feel repugnant for all things Pittsburgh, yet Joey Porter never played a down this past Saturday or two Sundays ago. In my youth growing up in Avondale and seeing the street game unfiltered on Rockdale and Burnet, Rockdale and Reading and several other local intersections, it always lead with the basic premise, he who controls the mind controls the action. If you don't like what I'm doing step off; if you're not down with me, later. If you're not on board, no biggie. But, Keep my name out yo' mouth! Translation: Do you; mind your own business; focus on what you want.

For all the alleged talent, coaching and knowledgeable people I know in and around football in this town, I am amazed at how effective Joey Porter was over a 3 week period in riling up Bengal Nation. For me it was embarrassing to watch such an obvious street strategy permeate the Jungle and beyond to the point of continued loss of focus. We previously fell for the banana in the tailpipe in week 14 and the players said post game the days after we realize we fell into the trap and got away from playing football. If we play them again we know what to do. But you didn't do it...

"If you can keep your head when all around you, are losing theirs and blaming it on Joey Porter, err you..." my apologies to Rudyard Kipling but I hope the point is starting to come into focus. You showed disdain for his supporting role in the touchdown dance at the expense of A.J. McCarron the last time we played, confirming that his actions rankle yours; and as if you were running low on hate for Porter he gives you enough fuel this past Saturday to ensure it will be there for their first encounter next season.

Don't hate the player, hate the game. For those that don't know, the rules were in place before Joey Porter arrived on the scene on how to manipulate the mind. So while he leveraged it beautifully, you didn't have to dance when the music was played. Several years ago I modified the quote to say "Don't hate the player, don't hate the game; hate that you got in it." Because when you get in the head game and can't control your emotions you lose. You'll always lose plain and simple.

"I can't control what you say but I can control how I respond", is a quote used in a training I do called Connecting With Others by Ralph Brandt based on treatment and response. It simply shines the light on how we, once we're engaged, have to take responsibility for our own actions and not those of others. Our actions were without control throughout the game especially at the end of the game when Joey Porter, aka Dark Vader, Potty Mouth P, Captain Piss Me Off or whatever colorful name you gave him stepped on the field minus his Pimp Cup (Translation: Diamond encrusted Chalis) but with mental game in tow. And he needed some victims. Some weak mind-in-the-moment players to drop game on and ruffle their feathers. He found a couple and they found didn't find the yellow brick road but the yellow flag allowing Joey Porter in his Bishop Don Juan voice to say "Give me them 15 yards beee-yatch!" Now let me get back over here and kick it with my fellas.

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I've heard the media, coaches, fans and players spew Joey Porter's name across every available blog, TV, paper, social media thread and bar over the last three days causing us to perhaps miss some great events  in the process. Media; I get it because ratings are driven by controversy most times. Fans certainly have shown that football is life with their hatred and ill feelings toward the Black and Yellow and Porter. But players and coaches? That is not supposed to happen. Stay focused, laugh at Joey and say "No way Jose'." We all remember that quote and life lesson at some point which is "You can't argue by yourself." But when you get an audience...

When I heard a coaches comments about Porter being an embarrassment to the coaching profession I realized the effects of his strategy went further than I thought possible. Win, lose or draw I would never let his name role off my tongue giving credence to the fact he's being thought of if at all. Thank goodness Coach Lewis knows that simple fact. I remember when people made me mad, upset and my mentor would say you know you're the only one upset because they're all somewhere enjoying life while you're upset and out of sorts. Yep; I changed that and the Bengals have to as well. While we're raising hell, starting petitions, blaming the refs and cursing Joey Porter and the Steelers, they're sitting back eating a nice meal, having a beer and preparing to play the Broncos. It doesn't matter if they lose because they weren't supposed to be in the playoffs and have now advanced to the second round. We were not only supposed to be in the playoffs but potentially get to the Super Bowl.

So Cincinnati Bengals; Bengal Fans; Bengal media, may I offer one last piece of advice? Joey Porter is not our problem, we are. We fumbled 5 times and lost 3, one late in the game. We were accused of targeting a defenseless receiver with a player who will never get the benefit of the doubt; we run into the tunnel after an interception with time still left on the clock as if we had already won the game (fortunately we got no excessive celebration penalty) showing our immaturity. We had 8 penalties for 79 yards 30 of them at the end of the game which ultimately sealed our fate and elevated our acrimonious feelings toward Joey Porter and the Pittsburgh Steelers in the process.

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No Pittsburgh didn't do any of the aforementioned egregious acts, honestly we did and that's a shame. We are the better team but the Steelers played the better game. Like the Detroit Pistons bullied Michael Jordan and the Chicago Bulls, we have been bullied by a team that has a PhD in bullying and we tried to mimic that. We aren't bullies; we are a highly talented, athletic, deep at every position team, with the best roster in the NFL according to most pundits and we didn't remember that at the end of the game. The only way the bully can beat you, knowing he doesn't have the talent, is to lure you into a fight. It starts happening around grade school and once you figure it out the bully becomes your servant.

Cincinnati today we should have a funeral for the antics of Joey Porter and give birth to a renewed focus on all things Cincinnati Bengals. One thing I love about Coach Lewis is he only talks about the Bengals and Bengal players in the moment. He knows you don't give the opponent the time of day, but your best effort. I am very confident next year the Steelers will not only get our best effort but one that doesn't involve mentioning...what's his name? I forgot already. That's the way I see it sitting in The Box Seat. I'm Wayne Box Miller.

NFL COACH SPEAK

The end of the season always brings anticipation, surprises and disbelief in the coaching ranks. Probably the most under appreciated job in America is that of being a coach. Fans clamor for change irrespective of the circumstances; owners in haste to build faster slow down the process with coaching changes and rebuilding; players revolt and blame lack of professionalism on the head coach and in the end those who should take responsibility rarely do.

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I offer several points of reference in Cleveland and Philadelphia. The Browns have had more coaches than Cleveland native Halle Berry has had men in the same time period, too many (Laugh a little this year). I thought Mike Pettine was a solid and tough coach dealing with a makeshift team, beset by injuries to some of their key players including Pro-Bowl Corner Joe Haden and no real quarterback as evidenced by the unreliability of Johnny Football aka Johnny Manziel. Was there ever a clear strategy or picture as to who the Browns were becoming or wanted to be? That wasn't the head coaches job and clearly the owner hasn't identified that and begun the execution portion of the plan. A man who has built up a successful enterprise should know growth is fueled by time, patience and evaluation. Patience is sorely lacking in this case as the Browns are starting over again and to the Browns Fans I say salute! You are the most loyal fans I think I've ever seen.

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Jeffrey Lurie the owner of the Philadelphia Eagles did the unthinkable and gave the store, bank account and employees to an unexperienced leader. Can you imagine walking into your job telling the CEO I need to be promoted and given the entire budget and final say on our department effective immediately. Yeah you would be packing your personal items shortly thereafter. Whatever Chip Kelly told Lurie upon his arrival and subsequently the following year to gain complete control should be published in book form and titled, "How to gain power without earning it." Congrats to Kelly because If I ever run for office I have my hype man.

And just when you thought the media was 100% accurate I'm sorry to disappoint you and say Indianapolis Colts Head Coach Chuck Pagano, rumored to be on his coaching death bed signed a four year deal last night meaning he's not going anywhere. The old "sources say" mantra the media uses when they don't know for sure slapped them in the face last night as they were already talking about his replacement, blah blah blah. Please know, no one in the media knows for sure even if they have a good idea. Things can change and they don't have to be informed.

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And then coaches that stay have some fans calling foul when the reality is there are only so many good coaches and quarterback combinations that will ever exist at one time. But the mere thought of enjoying your team's success has been overridden by the fact your team isn't doing enough to win, when in reality they are. You ca't buy a title although some say the Redskins finally brought a playoff spot, but at what cost? The Cowboys have spent money repeatedly and haven't come close to a Super Bowl appearance. My point is when you look at the big picture and the opportunities that are available in the NFL, if your team is winning and competing enjoy it. Yes expect more; always expect more. But remember it could be worse, much worse. Like Jacksonville worse; 49ers worse; Chicago Bears Worse. Yeah you say so what! We still should fire our coach. And to that I say remember firing one coach and bringing in another doesn't guarantee improvement, just change.

That's the way I see it sitting in The Box Seat. I'm Wayne Box Miller

CONCUSSION DISCUSSION

I went to see the movie "Concussion" and if you didn't see it don't worry I'm not going to give away any of the details nor the story lines that aren't already in the public sphere. It was a very good movie in my opinion and since I'm neither Siskel nor Ebert take that for what it's worth. But also take into account I've worked around professional football players for a number of years and see and hear of the effects it has, is having on veteran players.

Concussions aren't restricted to football; but the fact that football skirted the issue is what brought their connection with concussions to the forefront. When players start killing themselves in the face of normalcy, all things considered, then you have a problem. When a doctor can look at the evidence objectively using data and not inferring conclusions for the good of profit or fandom then you have to respect and address that.

Any sport, activity or event that will consistently show a backlash that outweighs the benefits needs to be evaluated, not eliminated. I love football and loved it in its purest form of gladiator aggression. It challenges me to think how many of my heroes that may be suffering now and that saddens me. One because I encouraged it as a fan; secondly because I cried foul when the NFL tried to improve the product by protecting the player. We're all double edged swords in this game of football. We love to see the hard hit, the "You Got Jacked Up!" highlights; yet we hate to see the stretcher slowly arrive on the field indicating the hit was serious enough that a physically gifted player can't get up on their own and recognizing the smelling sauce is just an exercise in futility.

So what do we do? We continue watching the game. If you play you accept the fact that the risks are real and documented. But the conundrum for any kid who sees football as a way out of poverty or access to the champagne life is purely risk/reward. It's hard to argue if he has poured all his talent into the game but if he stays in the league even one year the possibility of him becoming a victim to a serious injuries or concussion is there in black and white. You don't think about when you're playing or you'll get hurt players have told me repeatedly. I concur that you have to focus on the positive outcome not only in football but in life. That is indeed an interesting parallel...

It's hard to say what college football and the NFL will focus on going forward but one thing's for sure. In this information age everyone will know what you do and how you choose to handle it for the most part. Thereafter your actions will say a lot about how you rank people and profits when pitted against each other. I can only hope that people will win out every time. I'd like to think that now...

That's the way I see it sitting in The Box Seat. I'm Wayne Box Miller.

ODELL'S DILEMMA

The world saw the other side of New York Giant wide receiver Odell Beckham, Jr. and it wasn't pretty; as a matter of fact the onslaught of repetitive replays made it even more alarming. To say it was uncalled for is fair and to say action should be taken swiftly is appropriate.

Odell has shown he doesn't like to be stopped which is normal for a competitive and world class wide receiver in the NFL. But the way you display your frustration is the issue the world is currently wrestling with. We like OBJ; he's fun, cool and does pre-game rituals akin to Steph Curry of the Golden State Warriors. The kind that make you get to the venue hours ahead of schedule just to witness the skill set that leave your jaw agape.

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But what was witnessed yesterday left it wide open for a different reason. Code violation as some players have told me. Disrespect as others have illustrated and my opinion is "Totally uncalled for." But the bigger question or more specific his dilemma is: Where do you go from here? Odell is young but already on the verge of stardom on and off the field. He has endorsements, and I wonder if they're in jeopardy. He has big shoe and apparel contracts that will no doubt undergo scrutiny. And he has fans who will certainly question their allegiance to him after witnessing his latest temper tantrum. In case you didn't know it's not his first transgression but it most certainly is his worst.

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OBJ has to make up his mind as to which player he wants the world to see. The gifted, athletic and graceful wide receiver who conjures up catches reminiscent of John Jefferson and Cris Carter. Or the diva craving attention one like Chad Ocho Cinco and Terrell Owens who clearly wanted the camera and attention on them. They both have had unparalleled success but the way they're remembered is what stays with you long after the game is gone. His call either way but I can assure you of one thing, he will not be happy if he's remembered for his behavior versus his talent. When you talk about Jerry Rice or Tim Brown it's all about the talent and that's where they kept the focus. Odell needs to follow the path these Hall of Fame receivers laid. Its all about the routes they run and nothing else. Let your play do the talking and let your talking sit on the bench; at least until after the game. Then your words can run amuck, hopefully with respect in tow.

Odell I love your game and your talent. But that's all I want to see on the field. You're young and I was too once upon a time so I accept that this lapse in emotional control as a product of your maturity. Anyone my age can admit we made mistakes as well; but the key is to learn from them and keep growing beyond this. With that being said, I hope you do and go on to become the world class receiver we all think you're destined to be.  You're still headed that way....in spite of. That's the way I see it sitting in The Box Seat. I'm Wayne Box Miller.

YOUR HORSE IS TOO HIGH

So the ruling has come down and the status remains the same. Pete Rose is not worthy of being reinstated to baseball. For the love of Seattle Slew please come off your high horse baseball.

I am indifferent as to whether Pete Rose needs to be castrated baseball wise but what I can say without hesitation is baseball needs to get off its high horse. Yes the baseball that allows betting; the baseball that allows casinos to sponsor team events and place signage in baseball parks. Yes the baseball that has sweepstakes and partners with the likes of fantasy baseball and the likes. Yes someone who committed the ultimate "betting" crime has to he hung out to dry? Give me a break.

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I know there are those who say Pete Rose did it to himself; he did. You did it to yourself. What is that? Put yourself in position to be judged as blameless and perfect. To be judged by GOD (if you're a believer) or to be judged by your peers when the time comes and it will, if it hasn't already.  I am NOT condoning what Pete Rose did but simply condoning those who want him to serve a lifetime punishment for a game. We're talking about a game? What are we talking about (In my Allen Iverson voice) a game!? A game man?

That's exactly what we're talking about a man and a game. A game that is full of performance enhancement violations; collusion by owners; greed by players and teams; Bar fights, domestic violence and on and on. Yet this one crime and person shall be hailed as the greatest crime ever committed in baseball. There is the alleged racist Ty Cobb, yet no one says recall his Hall of Fame status ala the Bill Cosby retraction that seems to happen every month.

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Baseball needs to get a grip but those who agree with baseball need to as well. To say Pete Rose should forever be banned because he brought it on himself is counter to those who know a family member or themselves that have asked for forgiveness and got it. And if they didn't get it they cry bloody murder at the missed opportunity. Yet when it comes to Pete Rose they want to hang em' high.

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I still say Pete will get in after he has passes as if he can't do any harm to the "Integrity of the Game." I say the game lost its integrity when it didn't say to Pete, you've suffered enough, been embarrassed enough and enough time has lapse to teach any forthcoming players or future stars a valuable lesson. And that could be Pete's job, going to every major and minor league team annually and telling his story and what it cost him. What he's paying now is interest on ignorance and that's not a good return on anyone's investment.

Yes I know he still bet on baseball; but baseball also makes it easy for Las Vegas to bet on the game too. I'd love to point out their hypocrisy but the horse is too high for common sense to reach. That's the ways I see it sitting in The Box Seat. I'm Wayne Box Miller

BRAND LOYALTY

I was very encouraged to hear that LeBron James inked a lifetime deal with Nike for reasons that have nothing to do with basketball or shoes. LeBron James shoes are expected to crest upwards of $400 million in sales this year and the initial money Nike paid him out of high school, which was 7 years and $90 million, now pales in comparison to his worth and what he has generated for the top sneaker line in the world.

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But the loyalty that LeBron has shown to his friends is the number one misused and underused brand in the world: Friendship. So many athletes run out of their neighborhoods looking to latch on to the people with name recognition who have no respect for their environment. Oh they say all the right things and it's just to secure the signature on the paper of representation and then the walls close in around the player. But not LeBron; Maverick Carter, Randy Mims and Rich Paul are business partners and life long friends who represent him well. Yes they work with other skilled and savvy business people but they are making money representing the brand they've been a part of since childhood, their FRIEND LeBron James. Why don't more athletes do it? I can't answer that other than to say they don't know what's possible. They can't imagine that their friends are capable of negotiating big deals; but what they don't realize is the best in the business started without ever having done a deal. The difference is someone gave them a chance to make it happen and once they got the first deal done they started doing others.

Here is the simple end of the deal, and admittedly there are some more intricate points that require prerequisite planning and knowledge: most salaries are slotted and access to information is available to all involved in the game. I am not saying this to diminish the hard work agents contribute but I am saying there isn't a magic formula that one guys has over another for the most part. If player above you makes $3 million and the player below you makes $1 million than it's safe to say you should expect $2 million. Most Pro Leagues have unions which means the contracts are standardized and with the aid of an attorney whom you can pay billable hours you can learn on the go and ensure your player is being compensated at fair market value. Now with leagues establishing a rookie salary cap, the first contract is basically done for you.

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I remember Leigh Steinberg was the agent of nearly all the top quarterbacks in the NFL at one point and people talked about how great he was. Was he great or did he have great products in the players? When you have all the cards you can control the game; yes just like spades. David Falk had Michael Jordan, Alonzo Mourning and a list of players to die for. Scott Boras is hated by many baseball teams because when a player lands with him he is allegedly going to hold the team hostage. Why are all of these guys considered great negotiators? Primarily because of who they represent. If you walked in the door of Samsung, Sprite, Kia or any other company that wants to do business with LeBron, you have already cleared the most difficult hurdle which is whether the "want to" is there. With LeBron the answer is unequivocally yes. The next hurdle is whom do we need to speak with and the answer is his FRIENDS who are his business managers. From there its hammering out a deal that works for both parties and there are precedents set that help you ensure your friend gets a fair deal.

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So as we celebrate LeBron and his lifetime deal, I celebrate LeBron and his willingness to make sure his FRIENDS are part of his success. Not just tagging along, running up tabs, sleeping late and sucking the life out of him; but becoming self sufficient, successful and financially secure. When LeBron James retires his FRIENDS will probably be in a position to do so as well. If not their resume' which includes representing King James will surely open up doors to new opportunities and other athletes going forward. That's the blueprint for success and it starts with the brand that often gets overlooked and is undervalued. As they say sometimes it's right up under your nose and what LeBron has shown is it can be done without sacrificing the art of the deal. 

So don't be quick to say I have to go to this big name guy or that popular guy to get the best deal. The truth is the best deal is based on the market and your potential. If you, or your kid is the next LeBron or Tom Brady trust me the hard part is behind you and the opportunities are in front of you. But remember your friends and how you can not only bring them out of the neighborhood with you, you can empower them to use their GOD given abilities too. You might even be surprised at the deals they create because they're not tainted by the "It's always been done this way" mantra. They're just like you looking to make their mark on the game, which in this case is the business of sports. And you can score in that arena as well.

That's the way I see it sitting in The Box Seat. I'm Wayne Box Miller.

THE GREATEST OF ALL IS TIME

Peyton, this is Kobe; give me a call when you get a minute. Oh and by the way Father Time says he's been trying to reach you and said he will eventually.

...And still undefeated, Father Time! No one outruns him; no one out plays him and no one will ever will. Kobe Bryant finally succumb to the cruel reality that Father Time gets us all in the end. You have willed your way past injuries Peyton Manning and fought through an assortment of ailments but sitting in the fourth quarter of life with an end of game invoice is Father Time. You can't escape it and the illusion of your youth gives you false hope that you can. Talk about false hope...

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So many athletes in their prime, at the top of their game, felt they were different only to learn there is no discrimination when it's time to call it a day. Muhammad Ali for as great as he was, looked embarrassingly inept beyond his years before he quit. Joe Namath played for several different teams looking for lighting in a bottle only to find out it was Vodka. You can go to every sport and you'll find someone who doesn't know what we see and that is, that their time is now. I've got one more inning; one more at bat; one more jumper and they do but it only resides in their mind. If you're a real fan of that player you hold out hope based on past performances that yeah, they do have one more. This was just an off night, week or month.

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How does an athlete reconcile with their mind, the fact their body no longer has the ability to compete at the highest level regardless of what they done the past double digit years? Yes you see the ball but a split second in sports has cost many a player a chance at stardom so when it happens to a legend it's even harder to take.

Father Time doesn't take any prisoners, has no sympathy for your idol and certainly doesn't care if it affects the outcome of the game. He's making room for the next superstar or the next idol-in-the-making and you, once full of youth, yes you are in the way.

Peyton Manning has outlasted Father Time for a while now even though we all see he can't throw a deep ball with any velocity and/or accuracy the way he once did. Kobe Bryant's legs went on vacation a while ago but he thought they were still at the ready upon his command. These are the latest two players who have tested the age old theory that you can't out run father time and they're doing it in the typical and most painful way; lying to themselves. Having not been a superstar I wonder how they justify their sub-par performances when they turn consistent? How do they rationalize the pain that now awaits them in the second half versus 2 days after the game if at all? How do they make sense of the fact the signature move they made time and again, which freed them to make the Sportscenter Top Ten highlight reel, arrived later than it used to giving the defender the decided advantage?

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It has to be disheartening but the clues are all around. Former athletes they looked up to including Michael Jordan, have fallen to Father Time and typically in ways we'd rather forget. 10, 12 even 14 years of stellar performance and then we're left to watch a former shell of our heroes unwilling to concede their time has come. It has to be painful (Ask Tiger Woods); it has to be a slap in the face with a wet rag for them knowing their body and mind now disagree with them about playing one more game, down, quarter or inning. Part of the body is saying golf, more golf. While the mind says "Yes we can!" Never have two sides that were once in total sync become such a contradiction of their past.

But that's what happens when you try to beat your last opponent, who is and always will be undefeated. Father Time; a cruel opponent who lets you think you can do it all and all of a sudden, won't let you do it at all. Kobe finally gave in and once Peyton answers his call he will to. The great thing about Father Time is he has all the time in the world; and time outs too. Don't worry he'll win and so much so that Vegas won't take odds on him. Father Time is called a sure bet and Oddsmakers avoid him at all costs. Something our heroes can't seem to do. That's the way I see it sitting in The Box Seat. I'm Wayne Box Miller.